Today is my twin daughters birthday.They asked me to write 25 things I learned about life. This is what i wrote.
Author: Scott
communication is not a fight
Being honest and vulnerable about how you feel is intimacy NOT AN ATTACK. Intimacy is the goal, recognize its value.
everything is an opportunity for intimacy
Everyone scans for opportunity and looks to create opportunity in some way. A pickpocket refines their skills to create more opportunity. If you make intimacy the goal you will find it everywhere and in everything. Live intentionally !! Be kind, genuine, honest with yourself and others.
create a healthy enviroment
You deserve to be in an environment that brings out the softness in you and so does your partner.
green lights to look for in a partner
Here are a few:
seesaw between prioritizing each other
Do not just prioritize yourself. Do not just prioritize your partner. Be appropriate to the situation while respecting each other.
live intentional
Living life on automatic is the default. STOP, recognize you are not a robot and have full control of your life. If you always do what you have always done. You will always be where you have always been.
gratitude
Statistically, couples who practice gratitude have higher relationship satisfaction and less problems.
assume the best
The love of your life is standing across from you, act like it.
when you ate without me it I felt sad
Trust your partner with how you feel. Do not start a conversation with an attack.